How to Make a Difference: Part 1

How to Make a Difference: Part 1


Let me start of by saying, making a difference doesn’t mean you have to go out and be a world leader or ship off to Africa- but if that’s what you’re after, that’s cool too. In the meantime for all you everyday heroes out reading because you want to make a difference, look no further than where you are now. Remember, you don’t have to just watch touching stories of helping others and encouragement- you can create those stories.

I have comprised a small list of ways to make a difference in the lives of the people around you. Now, if you wondered why this post is labeled as “Part 1,” it is because this list is specific towards helping others by means of encouragement as well as friendship. A later list is to follow featuring other ways we can make a difference :)

And now, I present to you, How to Make a Difference: Part 1

1.I think we all can agree that kindness is not evenly distributed between youth and elders. So, be DIFFERENT, and compliment older people- on more than just their clothes or jewelry. Compliment their pretty smile or their general good looks. I can’t imagine how wonderful it would feel to be told I was beautiful if I hadn’t heard it in 10 years.  So, next time you see a shining smile or a twinkling eye of an older person, by golly,tell them :)

2.On top of complimenting older people, we can also complement people who probably don’t receive a lot of compliments. It sometimes seems that these little encouragements are saved up for certain “all around awesome” people, doesn’t it? Sure, build those people up too, but remember to also compliment people who you feel are overlooked. Affirmation is a powerful way to build people.

3. When someone gets you a gift or does something awesome for you, write them a thank you card. Kroger sells Thank You notes in bulk packs for just 2 bucks ;)                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 

4. Do you sometimes look around and wonder what you could be doing with your time? Do you have a loving heart? If you answered yes to either of these questions, then you could benefit from volunteering. You wouldn’t BELIEVE the amount of lonely hearts there are at nursing homes, animal shelters, and other facilities accepting volunteers. Wonderful people like YOU with time on their hands are overlooking this option to make a difference. Sure, it looks great on a resume, but that’s an insignificant bonus when compared to how it can help both you and the people you’re helping.

5. You know that person that always seems lonely or seems to have difficulty making friends? Befriending this person is a great way to open the door for them to have the confidence to hopefully make more friends. No one wants to be lonely, so help a brother or sister out!


Thanks for reading- Have a wonderful evening :)


The Pros and Cons of Dating Younger Guys

We’ve all done it. Actually no, we haven’t. For whatever reason there is a certain breed of young woman that preys after even younger men. But don’t jump to conclusions just yet, this woman isn’t a Cougar, she’s a Puma.


For those of you who don’t know, a puma is the same as a cougar, except she’s not old enough to be a cougar yet- thank God for her. For quick clarification, an example of a cougar would be Samantha Jones from Sex and the City whereas an example of a puma would be someone like Mariah Carey. Mmm, get it girl.


As a woman of 22 years of age, I have been blessed with the experience of dating both older and younger guys. I think most girls stick to dating older guys, so I felt the need to enlighten them and whoever else is interested on what its like dating a younger man! So, if you’re thinking about dating a younger beau or you just want to see what it was like for me, then read on, girls and boys.

The Pros and Cons of Dating Younger Guys

Let’s start with the pros shall we?

Pro#1-On a more superficial note, younger guys tend to have great hair. As a girl that loves good hair, I’m delighted when a guy has healthy, thick locks. I feel crazy even putting this as the first pro, but it’s part of why a young man(e) is a good thing.

Pro#2- Since the younger generation has been exposed to more at an earlier age, it is a surprisingly natural experience relating to younger men. They tend to be educated on current cultural trends, and just as intellectual as their older competition- Then again, that could just be the type that I attract, but I digress.

Pro#3- They are willing and eager to please.

Pro#4- I don’t know if it’s just me, but younger guys are so sweet, and I’m talking suhhhweeeet. Personally I think it’s because they haven’t been tarnished by too many women who were either too easy or who relentlessly broke their hearts. They still have a bit of innocence left, which is so damn endearing.

Now, for the dark side.

Con#1- Since they are younger and single, it’s a high probability that they have just recently ended things with their first loves- and by recent I mean within the year. And just in case a reminder is necessary, the end of first love is a pain so great that it has literally been equated with experiencing the death of a loved one. Since the imminent break up between a young man and his first love (who by default is searing competition) is typically still fresh, the younger male has a tendency to have lingering thoughts about her. Sometimes younger guys are still in the stage where they will occasionally still see their exes and reopen that same door to nowhere. This is obviously a major setback.

Con#2– Let’s face it, the younger you are, the higher the probability is that your relationship won’t last. I don’t mean this to be ageist or cynical, but rather as realistic. Think about yourself at 19 or 20- and then think about all the people you dated or had feelings for in between. When you date younger men, it’s like you’re going back in time to yourself at that age, and that’s not always a good thing when it comes to commitment.

I hope this list sheds some insight as to some things you may notice about dating someone younger. If we are being real though, remember that this list only reflects my personal experience. Boys will be boys, despite their age, and that includes both good things and bad. I’ll end on this note and say that I believe the true worth of a man is not in his age, but in his character, obviously :)

And remember everyone, to guard that PRECIOUS heart of yours, because it is without the shadow of a doubt the most valued commodity you have. I hope you have a LOVING day!


XOXO Rachel

Movie Review: The Heat

The Heat is a new movie starring Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy as two starkly opposite cops who are forced to work together as a team. With two actresses seasoned in comedy, I must say that I was concerned when I didn’t laugh during the trailer for the movie.

I was also concerned when during the first 10 minutes of the movie went by without even a giggle. But, I soon realized, that the only reason I wasn’t laughing was because Melissa McCarthy hadn’t yet made her debut.

Once McCarthy’s character, being a rugged, overweight, offensively verbal and borderline psychopathic cop, came on the screen (about 10 minutes in), the entire audience was rolling. And when I say “rolling,” I literally mean people were laughing so hard that the occasional snort was not uncommon.  I’ll admit I snorted audibly at least 4 times- and I’m not even a snorter.

On top of the comedy were surprising plot twists that added necessary detail and thought to the film. My only critique is the seeming impossibility of the events of one scene in particular near the films closing, but to the average viewer, one would barely think twice about the scenes outcome. I guess you would call this particular critique, a flaw in screenwriting. But hey, it’s a comedy, who cares if it makes perfect sense?

This movie is worth your time, but I do suggest seeing a matinee. This is the kind of movie that will kick start your day and have you feeling happy for the rest of it.

Here’s a cute pic of the actresses at the Premier- Looks like they are friends off screen too :)


A Step by Step Guide to Dealing with: Commitment Issues

My friends, I must begin by saying, this blog entry is not about relationship commitment issues. But since I mentioned it, it does seem in the dating world that people are either wayyyyy too committed or not nearly enough.

This entry is to help deal with General Issues with Commitment- as in, can’t make a decision or can’t stick with a decision, kind of people.

The problem is this-As American’s, we have wayyy too many options for where to live, who to date, what to believe, how to spend our money, what to read, where to work, HOW TO SPEND OUR TIME…. The list could go on longer than a years worth of dull movies.

Many of us would agree, myself leading the pack, that committing is hard not because we are afraid of success, but because we all want to be happy, and we don’t know exactly which path will bring us the greatest happiness.Truthfully, I can barely commit to finishing a book because I don’t know if it will be the “perfect book for me.” There aren’t many names for this collective feeling of non-commitment, but I like to think of it as Societal ADD, or simply Commitment Issues.


If you’ve ever felt this way, read on for some insight on How To Deal with commitment issues in order to help you obtain your greatest happiness. Remember this, committing to something does not mean that you will be stuck with your decision forever, it only means that you are signing up for a meaningful experience. At least with commitment as opposed to non-commitment, you are doing something with a degree of involvement instead of wading in the tepid, and eventually murky, pool of options.

How to Make a Commitment and Stick to it

Step 1- Think about your priorities. Do you want a gorgeous spouse and eventually a big happy family? Do you want an awesome career and then potentially the family? Do you want to travel? Do you want to help others in a big way, such as by being a missionary? Newsflash-There are TONS of options. The take away point from this step is to PRIORITIZE. Think about what is most important and the few things following closely behind in 2nd and 3rd, and work towards obtaining those priorities, with special attention given to the top priority. Just think about what gives you fulfillment, and work your commitments around doing the things that fulfill you.

Step 2- Write those priorities down. Put them in a place where you can see them and work towards achieving your goal. Remember, this is just a commitment, not a stone carving in the history books.

Step 3- Visualize yourself in the life that you have committed to achieving. If you want this commitment to come true (which you do, because it’s better than just waiting for something to happen) then you need to imagine yourself becoming what you have committed to.

Step 4- WHEN IN DOUBT, remember all the things you’ve committed to in the past. Think about the benefits you have gained from committing, such as learning a new skill, doing great at work, bettering yourself. When you are committed, your head is in the game, as opposed to staring off into space- which is what causes some people to miss our on their lives.

Step 5- Once you’ve obtained your goal, there’s always a million more things to either think about or to actually commit to. Only you can choose which option is best for you. In the meantime, if you’re having a hard time choosing your next path, you can always refer to these 5 steps.

Written by your friend, Rachel Goodman; Blogger, Server, and reformed Commitophobe.