We’ve all done it. Actually no, we haven’t. For whatever reason there is a certain breed of young woman that preys after even younger men. But don’t jump to conclusions just yet, this woman isn’t a Cougar, she’s a Puma.
For those of you who don’t know, a puma is the same as a cougar, except she’s not old enough to be a cougar yet- thank God for her. For quick clarification, an example of a cougar would be Samantha Jones from Sex and the City whereas an example of a puma would be someone like Mariah Carey. Mmm, get it girl.
As a woman of 22 years of age, I have been blessed with the experience of dating both older and younger guys. I think most girls stick to dating older guys, so I felt the need to enlighten them and whoever else is interested on what its like dating a younger man! So, if you’re thinking about dating a younger beau or you just want to see what it was like for me, then read on, girls and boys.
The Pros and Cons of Dating Younger Guys
Let’s start with the pros shall we?
Pro#1-On a more superficial note, younger guys tend to have great hair. As a girl that loves good hair, I’m delighted when a guy has healthy, thick locks. I feel crazy even putting this as the first pro, but it’s part of why a young man(e) is a good thing.
Pro#2- Since the younger generation has been exposed to more at an earlier age, it is a surprisingly natural experience relating to younger men. They tend to be educated on current cultural trends, and just as intellectual as their older competition- Then again, that could just be the type that I attract, but I digress.
Pro#3- They are willing and eager to please.
Pro#4- I don’t know if it’s just me, but younger guys are so sweet, and I’m talking suhhhweeeet. Personally I think it’s because they haven’t been tarnished by too many women who were either too easy or who relentlessly broke their hearts. They still have a bit of innocence left, which is so damn endearing.
Now, for the dark side.
Con#1- Since they are younger and single, it’s a high probability that they have just recently ended things with their first loves- and by recent I mean within the year. And just in case a reminder is necessary, the end of first love is a pain so great that it has literally been equated with experiencing the death of a loved one. Since the imminent break up between a young man and his first love (who by default is searing competition) is typically still fresh, the younger male has a tendency to have lingering thoughts about her. Sometimes younger guys are still in the stage where they will occasionally still see their exes and reopen that same door to nowhere. This is obviously a major setback.
Con#2– Let’s face it, the younger you are, the higher the probability is that your relationship won’t last. I don’t mean this to be ageist or cynical, but rather as realistic. Think about yourself at 19 or 20- and then think about all the people you dated or had feelings for in between. When you date younger men, it’s like you’re going back in time to yourself at that age, and that’s not always a good thing when it comes to commitment.
I hope this list sheds some insight as to some things you may notice about dating someone younger. If we are being real though, remember that this list only reflects my personal experience. Boys will be boys, despite their age, and that includes both good things and bad. I’ll end on this note and say that I believe the true worth of a man is not in his age, but in his character, obviously :)
And remember everyone, to guard that PRECIOUS heart of yours, because it is without the shadow of a doubt the most valued commodity you have. I hope you have a LOVING day!